Hypocrisy is the best policy – Varsity Online
Shouldnt the direction of travel matter so much more than being a purist about every step we stake?ALISA SANTIKARN
Content Note: This article contains discussion of eating disorders and dieting.
Knocking someone off their perfect pedestal is an unparalleled delight. Its that glorious HA! moment we all dream of. Its why so many of us had to stifle a giggle at Ricky Gervais now infamous speech. The same happened when newspapers published the holiday habits of the oh-so-environmentally-minded Harry and Meghan. The best part is that theres endless scope for identifying inconsistency. Theres the leather boots some haughty virtue-signallers snuggle their toes into, the mountainous air miles on some vegan foods, or just the time the nice person wasnt actually that nice.
While I would never condemn harmless bitchiness behind closed doors, I do think that, if were to make any progress at all, its necessary to start taking a different approach, especially when it comes to our moral compass. Ive had many friends, for instance, try Veganuary only to discover milk powder in Alpen products and abandon it entirely. Thats the perception nowadays: you can either be perfect, or abandon the pursuit altogether.
But I would argue quite the opposite. Hypocrisy is not only more approachable in the short term, and sustainable in the long term, but its also far more heroic.
The ideal of the perfect gets in the way of the good enough.
I know from my own haphazard dieting attempts that ridiculously high expectations only set you up to go quite the other way. At school, I didnt just want to be slim, I wanted to be Victorias-Secret-level thin. And, inspired by my skinny colleagues who had begun only eating leaves, I knew it would have to be the same for me. A single biscuit would unravel all success.
But a life of leaves never really appealed. So I never actually started. Worse than that, I told myself each day that my diet would start the next, so Id wolf down whatever I could squeeze into my stomach, fearing each marvellous meal would be my last. As it happens, those last-ever evenings became a habit. The irony was that, when I developed this mastermind plan, I was actually quite skinny to begin with. But, under the pressure of unrealistic expectations, I went quite the other way. Ive never gained as much weight as I did trying to be a purist about my diet.
The same applies to socially conscious eating habits. Intimidating ideals send people in the opposite direction. So many people sympathise with vegan ethics but, put off by its purism, continue to slap meat on their plates three times a day. Why even attempt something so unachievable? The ideal of the perfect gets in the way of the good enough.
I call myself a vegan because its a close-enough description of my diet, though many have leapt up with their pitchforks to disagree. Since my grounds are environmental, and since Im desperately drawn towards forkfuls of pork, I allow myself the odd loophole, whether its meat thats about to be thrown away or the odd bite of something I havent financially contributed to. Yes its flimsy and fallacious, but it works. It keeps me going. It means that I - an individual with the willpower of a teaspoon - have stuck with it for over a year now.
Shouldnt that be what counts? Shouldnt the direction of travel matter so much more than being a purist about every step we stake? Theres no need to denounce the vegetarian who buckles at bacons behest. The same goes for the vegan who surreptitiously sips her friends cow milk cappuccino. Both are going in the right direction. That in itself ought to be cause for celebration.
To avoid hypocrisy, on the other hand, is to avoid setting standards for yourself altogether. It certainly makes life easier. Someone who identifies as a bad person has no expectation of good behaviour to live up to. Someone with no values cannot be accused of breaking them. In my own experience, it stems from a lack of faith that youll be able to maintain the standard you set for yourself.
To strive for something, knowing youre unlikely to succeed but trying anyway for the sake of a greater cause: that is the essence of real heroism. In fact, although Ive shed many of my religious beliefs, its the one idea that keeps my little toes trotting up to communion - that we inevitably fall short, but we strive anyway, and that is what makes us good. What could be more human? What could be more heroic?
Im a vegan who snaffles her mothers chocolate supply. Im also a feminist who will have a bad day if her hair tresses dont fall quite right. Im a firm believer in complete transparency and yet will occasionally pathologically lie in order to maintain my own privacy.
Im proud to be a hypocrite in almost everything I do. It means I have values. It means Im finally trying.
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